I hate being taken advantage of. I'm all for helping people. Goodness knows I've had a lot of help along the way. I've always been grateful for it, and I've tried my best to "do unto others" and all that good stuff.
But every now and again I encounter a person who is a master at exploiting the generosity of others. We've gotten ourselves involved with one such person. She goes to our church, and it all started with our offering to take her to Sunday services every week.
I really wouldn't mind this little weekly good deed, except that she ALWAYS keeps us waiting, such that we are late for church most weeks. I hate being late for anything. I absolutely hate it. If you ever want to see me go from zero to full rage, just make me late for something.
After-church rides have evolved into side-trips to the grocery store.
The woman's gall reached it's peak this morning, when she sent us this note: "If I schedule a return trip to East Jesus to come in at 5:36pm or 11:35pm, which time would be better for you to pick me up at the airport?" That's right, she didn't ask if we could give her a ride, she just assumed that we would.
Grrrrrrrr!
5 comments:
Oh man, that would piss me off, big time. You've got to find a way to be too busy or otherwise occupied to deal with her for a while. Ugh.
As difficult as it might be, I'm sure you have gumption to tell her that she can schedule arriving whenever she wants, as Taxi's are always available at the airport...heh. As for the always late thing, just tell her that you're happy to give her a ride as long as she's ready by X time, but from now on, if she's not ready she will need to find another ride, because your New Year's resolution is to be early everywhere you go this year...
What a true mooch, bless her heart.
The only way to be a doormat is to get on the ground. Advise user that you and spouse hate being late for church. As such, tell her you want to give her a ride, but not at the expense of tardiness and if she's not ready by xyz time, you'll have to leave her behind-- then do it if she isn't ready as instructed. Next week she'll either be ready or will have found a different ride. It may be hard, but it'll make you feel a lot better and back in control of your time. My mother always told me you can dictate the terms of someone's willingness to help-- you take what's offered...
What a bitch!
No good deed goes unpunished, eh?
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