It's Monday morning, and I'm watching The Basketball Diaries. Those boys are bad asses. I love DiCaprio and Wahlberg together (The Departed is so good).I guess it's fittin', given that earlier today I attended a truancy hearing at Amanda's school.
I threw her under the bus.
I didn't do it to cover my ass. I did it to put the blame squarely where it belongs: on her.
Here's the thing. Last year we gave her options. She could take classes at the college (a lot of high school kids do this), she could be home schooled (many more do this), or she could continue at her high school. I left a job with benefits to make college or home schooling viable options.
Choosing to stay in high school meant that she actually had to:
1) GO TO SCHOOL.
2) ON TIME.
3) EVERY DAY.
She knew the terms. She accepted them. She chose to stay in high school. She said she'd prove that she could do it.
She's not doing it.
And that's about as much as I can say on the whole thing.
7 comments:
Sorry she's giving you trouble, Trop.
Speaking as a former high school teacher ...
It's good to make her take responsibility for her actions. You would not believe how many parents just make excuse after excuse after excuse for their children and never expect them to take responsibility. It doesn't teach them, or let them learn, important lessons that they are old enough to be learning.
((hugs)) hang in there- you're doing the right thing.
Thanks y'all.
It's hard to talk about without seeming maudlin. There are just so many post-traumatic triggers from my marriage to her father. She and I are BOTH dysfunctional on this one.
Like Syd, I'm sorry, too. Hugs all around ...
I wish I worked with more kids whose parents are willing to hold them accountable and not let them off the hook when it matters most. Good on you!
I'm sorry you're going through this. I know as parents it's our first instinct to protect (and cover for) our kids, but you're doing the right thing. Hope that things settle down for the second semester.
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